Double Maid of Honor Duty - Breathe!

Okay... I'm not going to bullshit you, everything will not be okay. So stop everything for just one second, take your eyes away from this screen, close your eyes and just breathe. That's it, inhale through your nose and out your mouth. Because in 6 months, you will learn to enjoy that one second you have, to just step back and breathe.

I initially started this blog as a form of venting. But when some of my new clients, former clients, and their families asked to read this, they kept asking me to make it public so that all of their friends could know that they weren't alone in the bridal wars.

As an adult you typically have 2 best-friends, one from childhood/high school and one from college/work. Well I am no different. I have two of the greatest best-friends ever! And while they are both great in their own way, they are both pains in the ass in their own way as well.
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"Now that you've had a chance to breathe, let me just remind you that both of these women are your friends. However the people they will become during this process.... Well you're not going to have any fucking clue as to who they are. But you'll be okay"

This is the shit I had to tell myself as I looked into the lint filled toothpaste spotted mirror in my bathroom. While I am their best friend, they DO NOT like each other. At all! None the less, we shall call these women "C" and "J".  Friend C is what I like to refer to as the "America's Sweetheart Bride", and friend J is what I call, the "Self Irritated Bride".

Now lets get a little bio on the two, shall we (I've only shown their rings).........

This is C - The "America's Sweetheart Bride" is a mix of the "DIY", "Romantic", "Sentimental" brides, you see on TLC or WEtv. She's the one that you initially cheer for during the opening to the episode because she's a good girl, with a good job, from a good family, with a good fiance, that is just going through a few struggles that every good humble american has gone through. She wants the finest of arrangements and decor without paying the finest of prices. And while she fights so hard to be the different type of bride, she cant escape the bridal stereo types.  But we'll get more into that a bit later.

This is J - The "Self Irritated Bride" is a mix of the "People Pleasing", "Always Stressed", "Self Service" brides that you always hear about. She's paying for her own wedding and in the process trying to make sure everyone is not stressed out, but by doing so she stresses herself out. And if everyone around her has a smile on their face, she is absolutely happy. Even if she is completely depressed....

So now that you know about the type of brides they are. And the struggle its going to be to knock out both of these weddings without a hitch. Because regardless of what the fuck any bride says.... As the Maid of Honor (MOH)/Best man (BM) you are responsible for everything.

Just know that when shit fucks up, its always your fault. If things works out perfectly, anyone else but you is amazing and did a great job. So are you ready?